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1075090_507105899404424_1536326969_nIs a Romance Between a Teacher and a Parent Realistic?

The short answer is yes. It happens all too often. Here’s a post about a teacher and parent in a Catholic school in a realtionship. Often the school has to make a judgement about the relationship and if it’s a conflict of interest. The most interesting piece about the above mentioned post is the comments. I love how people become polarized about this issue.

A friend shared a story about a married parent who was having an affair with her child’s teacher. Now the parent isn’t able to come to the school without notice ahead of time and the teacher will be let go at the end of the year. While I don’t justify infidelity, why is it that a teacher is held to a higher standard? But then I’ve seen it happen first hand.

I married a former student’s father. I met Jason (name changed) when I was his son’s third grade teacher. We didn’t date until that summer and then our relationship took a long time to grow before we married. We were friends first and had a lot in common, both divorced, raising children, quiet and driven. While my relationship with Jason wasn’t a secret, it caused issues at work. Some of my co-workers cornered me and accused me of potentially ruining the school’s reputation. They felt I should break up with Jason. To be honest, their ambush brought Jason and I closer. But the relationship with my co-workers was forever changed.

Do I regret my marriage? No way…but my choice makes for an interesting plot point in my latest erotic romance- Chalkboard Romance.

See how Lauren Walsh handles falling for a student’s father after a one night stand. Will she lose her job or will she give up on a chance for a happily ever after? Please let me know how you’d handle things if you were in the same situation.


1615044_507105919404422_1392483176_nExcerpt #1

“Not happening. The dates arranged by the mysterious Master Draikoh San are legendary.” Melanie perched on the corner of Lauren’s desk. “Supposedly he’s arranged for a few Hollywood and rock-n-roll bigwigs. His ability to find the pefect date is astonishing.”

Lauren avoided eye contact, pulling papers off her desk. “Since the divorce—Boy, I hate that word—I’m hesitant to jump into the dating scene. I don’t want a permanent relationship right now.”

“You need to get back on the horse. We talked about this. Someone to soothe your feminine ego would be perfect.”

Lauren did want to feel desired and loved again. The Playhouse happened to be hideously overpriced but offered a private select screening with a deep background check on all their clients. Few things were known about the owner of The Playhouse, but Master Draikoh San appeared either part god or part magician but totally reliable, very well respected. He guaranteed his results whether you were looking for a casual affair or long term love. Most of all, he was discreet.

I’m ready to move forward. She couldn’t keep letting her husband’s—ex-husband’s—infidelity overshadow her life. At least, the alimony would go for something good. She took a deep breath. “I’ll check my email.”

Lauren logged into her account. An email from Master Draikoh was at the top of the list. Her heart began to pound. Nervous to see who Master Draikoh recommended, she hesitated, fingers poised above the keyboardShe agreed to Melanie’s demands partially to get her off her back. She pulled her hands back, then twisted them. Apprehension, excitement, and determination fought for control.

Teachers aren’t seen as hotties except in campy ‘80s music videos. She shuddered. The video for Hot For Teacher crowded her mind. If I take this step, what will happen to my career? What if someone found out I used a dating service? Lauren chewed on her lip as she continued to wring her hands anxiously. She threw her shoulders back.Who am I kidding? The whole process is safe. Besides, I don’t care if someone does find out. I deserve this.

She inched her fingers back toward the keyboard. With a few strokes, she’d find out. Her curiosity would be answered.

“It’s here,” she said with a whisper. Lauren opened up the email, then read the details aloud to Melanie.

“Your night is arranged for next Monday night. I’ve found the perfect guy for your date. I have included the flight information to Chicago, your room accomodations at the Lotus Hotel, in addition to some details about the man you’ll be meeting. Remember our rule…for this first date, only use first names. This enhances your connection. If you want to meet again, you can arrange to exchange numbers afterward. I’m sure you’ll have the night you dream of.”


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About the author:

As a writer, Melissa likes to keep current on topics of interest in the world of writing.  She’s a member of the Romance Writers of America and EPIC.  Melissa is always interested in improving her writing through classes and seminars.  She also believes in helping other authors and features authors and their books on her blog.

Melissa doesn’t believe in down time.  She’s always keeping busy.  Melissa is a wife and mother, an elementary school teacher, a book reviewer, an editor for a publishing company as well as an author. Her home blends two families and is a lot like the Brady Bunch, without Alice- a large grocery bill, tons of dirty dishes and a mound of laundry. She loves to write stories that feature “happy endings” and is often found plotting her next story.

Melissa loves hearing from readers!





12 Responses to “Is a Romance Between a Teacher and a Parent Realistic?”

  1. Melissa Keir says:

    Thank you for having me on your site! :)

  2. AJ Best says:

    I’m blessed to have you here. Your such a great writer and wonderful friend.

  3. lizaoconnor says:

    Now I’m riled up again. What right does anyone have to make decisions about your life, other than you. You didn’t enter the Catholic church as a nun…although I believe they should drop the no marriage rule there as well. It never worked anyway and created a horrible side affect. But back to schools. You entered a low paying, but requiring intensive training & education job. I am most outraged at your hypocritical fellow teachers, I do not call them your friends because the clearly weren’t friends at all. The were mean S. Bs. (The first initial is for Southern. You may guess the second.) I’ll stop writing and go back to behaving. (Twitter had to expel me yesterday for bad behavior). It seems I’m easily riled at stories of mistreatment.

    Liza of Arc….(that doesn’t sound as impressive as Joan of…)

  4. I guess I don’t see the big deal in a parent dating a teacher if both parties are available. Why would it matter if one person is a teacher, astronaut, baker, or cable TV man? We’re all deserving of love. I’m looking forward to reading your book, Melissa! It’s on my TBR list ;)

  5. Interesting post–I like the way you set up the debate rather than stating your opinion–makes for a lively discussion! M. S.

  6. Melissa Keir says:

    Thank you MS. I agree that it doesn’t really have one right answer. It will depend on each person’s beliefs.

  7. Interesting topic and something real to write about that readers will connect to.

  8. Sure! In my debut novel, Unexpected Legacy, the school principal and a parent fall in love. Both are single, so do not break up any marriages. Makes for some interesting conflict, I think.

  9. Sandy says:

    Hi Melissa,

    First, I enjoyed your excerpt, and I love the concept for your story.

    What would I do about dating a student’s father if I was the teacher for the student. If he was married, I wouldn’t date him, but if he’s a single parent, and I’m single, too, I would date him. However, I wouldn’t allow my relationship with the father influence how I treated the child.

    Now, for the school; I believe they have no business in your personal life, but I know how the school politics work. I disagree with it, but I don’t know how it can be changed.

  10. Melissa Keir says:

    Thank you AJ for your kind words. I do appreciate your friendship as well. :)

  11. This is a volatile subject and you are a brave woman, Melissa. Good for you that you married the man you loved. I don’t think it’s fair for teachers to be held to a higher standard about their relationships as long as they are not involved with under-aged students. If we trust teachers to influence our children daily, we should trust them to have good judgment about their private relationships. There are, however, way too many teacher-student affairs being exposed lately and that is troubling.

  12. Melissa Keir says:

    Thank you everyone for the supportive words. It is always interesting to hear how real world events can shape a story. The harsh words from my co-teachers was horrible and still get to me today. I did have to take a chance by marrying my husband. I learned who the real friends are and the ones who weren’t. It was hard to be a step parent at the school where I worked. Until we were married, I was not allowed to have any insight into the boy’s work. I couldn’t talk with the teachers to get help. I had to always go through their father.

    I agree that the story makes for wonderful conflict. And that teacher-student relationships are strange. I would find them strange even now that some of my former students are adults. We talk but I knew them so many years ago, I don’t think I could ever date one. Just too awkward.

    Thank you again everyone for stopping by! I’ve loved hearing from you!

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